As people that know me in life I really like most people. I am not an angry person. I don’t normally hold a grudge I am most a good hearted person. I would give just about anybody anything I could.
I recently got a friend request from this girl from jr high and high school. At one point in time way back in jr high I thought she was my friend. Well she wasn’t. She just wasn’t a nice person. When I read this request I got this fire under my skin that literally wanted to make me jump thru the screen and rip her fingers off of her hands. All those feelings from her being mean and nasty to me as a child came back. So instead of just ignoring her like I always did I have chosen to stand up to her. I know it was many years ago but I feel like I HAVE TO DO THIS.
So here is my letter to her. I was going to use a different name but I thought NAH why should I.
I was shocked to see that you would want to be my friend on facebook since that is the farthest thing that we have ever been. In my world friends don’t do certain things to the people that we consider “friends”.
- You never put another one down because they don’t have the name brand clothing. You never know what kind of situation their family is going thru.
- You never make fun of a friend. Calling them shamu and mamu isn’t cool. It is just down right cruel especially when you write notes weekly calling them this and yelling it down the school hall ways for years on end.
- You don’t control them. Yeah I think this one is self explanatory.
- You don’t make them feel guilty when they have other friends than you.
- You don’t make fun of them because they are in the top of the class. Ya calling them awful names because of it.
- You don’t force a mutual friend to call out of the clear blue and say something awful just for pure entertainment.Do you remember here is a quarter call someone who cares yeah I remember that phone call.
Yeah these are just a few examples of the things that you have personally done to me. While this was many years ago I have chosen to forgive you but I will NEVER forget. I do have to thank you because I have chosen to teach my children to do the complete opposite of you. I have chosen for them to be kind and gentle. To be understanding.
I hope for your sake and your families that you have changed. While I highly doubt that you have. I can tell you this. I have CHOSEN not to be your “FRIEND” because I have never been your friend and I will never be your friend. The only thing that I was to you was your victim.
So another words. No I will not be your friend.
So I just sent this off. I feel like the worst person ever. I am not normally the mean one. And honestly I think it is the meanest I have ever been in my life. I was hoping that I would feel better and have closure in my life. But I feel like maybe I have stooped to her level.
I spoke with two of my closest friends. They were my good friends at the time all of this was going on also. They didn’t really think that she would really respond back. I knew she should. I told them that she would have to have the last word. Sure enough she did respond back. She was very snarky in her reply she never said she was sorry for what she did.
I had people telling me that I shouldn’t give her the time with a reply but I really felt that I needed to do this. I needed the closer for me. I needed to stand up and say what you did to me was wrong. What you did to my friends was wrong.
The only saving grace in all of this is that she married a real jerk. We all went to school with them. Lets just say he did some really awful things to a good friend of mine. So every morning those two rotten people wake up and have to look at each other.
While I do wish them the best of luck in life. I just don’t want them involved in any way shape or form of mine.
Sorry I know this isn’t my typically type of blog but I really felt like it needed to be out there. Most of us fit into 1 of 2 categories from school. The ones who were bullied or the bullies. I can tell you this I would have rather been the one that was bullied than the one doing the bulling. My advice in all of this is. If you were the one to cause pain on another. I am sorry sure goes a LONG way.